07.05.2021

We Rise – Rossignol Women

WE RISE - Tessa Treadway Motherload

Tessa Treadway has a remarkable way of facing life’s challenges head-on while finding peace in the mountains with her family.

In April of 2019,

Tessa was at home wrangling the couple’s two small children and pregnant with their third when she got the call she always secretly feared. In the blink of an eye, Tessa’s Free Range Family went from two parents and two kids to one parent and three kids—an overwhelming ratio for any mortal being. As a wife, she’s heartbroken for her own loss. As a mother, she’s devastated for her children who now have to grow up without their father. But in true Treadway fashion, Tessa has found the strength to carry this new motherload.

Where Tessa and Dave used to split the roles and duties of being parents and partners, Tessa has had to learn how to juggle it all on her own.

“One thing that I've really noticed this year is when there are two parents working together, you both have that opportunity to say, ‘Okay, I'm done. I need a break, I'm going to lose it at the kids,’” says Tessa. “Parenting on your own, that luxury I guess is all of a sudden gone and so it's pretty wild to see where in yourself you just have to go when it's not really an option to tap out or to say, ‘Okay, I'm done.’ You just have to take a deep breath and dig a little deeper to somewhere you never even knew existed.”

While it may never be considered “easy,” Tessa continues to bring her three children to the mountains, to share the freedom and solace she and her late husband discovered for themselves so many years ago. It takes a lot longer to load up the truck and the gear bag weighs just as much as she does, but once she’s out there sliding on snow with her kids it all becomes worth it. In a way, it’s like bringing the past into the present.

 

“We love to be in the mountains and it's super special,” says Tessa. “I don't know if it's kind of like nurture versus nature. I don't know if it's because of the way that [Dave and I]  introduced skiing to them and how much fun we've had as a family doing it. The reason is if that's why they love it or if it's just because they love skiing or it is what we've created it to be, but it's super special that as a family, being up skiing at a ski hill and enjoying time in the mountains together is just a place that we all feel alive and we feel joy and that we can really all be living in the moment presently.”

The Free Range Mom also admits that it’s a bit of a selfish pursuit because the mountains are where she feels most like herself. “Being in the mountains feels like the place I want to be,” says Tessa. “Like it’s my old life and I have this opportunity to bring my kids into it and introduce them to something that I love so much.”

Grief, much like anything in life, has its ebbs and flows, but Tessa has found peace in the chaos and looks to her kids to keep her grounded.

“I think I'm getting really good at adapting and rolling with it because we don't know what the next day holds,” says Tessa. “And so all we've got is right now and that's a really good thing that kids remind us of every day.”

Even though the massive gear bag for this new Free Range Family isn’t getting any lighter, it’s Tessa’s strength to pick it up, day after day, despite the struggle, that is making it feel just a little less cumbersome and a little more normal.

Raising my kids on my own, dealing with their emotions, dealing with my emotions, dealing with our loss, all of it. It's super hard, but it definitely hasn't been bad,” Tessa laments. “There are days that have felt really bad and hard but to see the kids coming back to life to see, I don't know, to notice small things and celebrate them, to have joy again, it all feels like all the hard is worth it and it's not bad.”

Watch the new short film Motherload featuring Tessa Treadway.

Follow @freerange.family on Instagram to see more of Tessa and her family’s adventures.

There is no one in this world quite like Tessa Treadway. She has a remarkable way of grabbing the proverbial bull by the horns and facing life’s challenges head-on—from her own professional ski career to the sudden passing of her husband and professional skier, Dave Treadway, in a backcountry ski accident.

 

 

In April of 2019, Tessa was at home wrangling the couple’s two small children and pregnant with their third when she got the call she always secretly feared. In the blink of an eye, Tessa’s Free Range Family went from two parents and two kids to one parent and three kids—an overwhelming ratio for any mortal being. As a wife, she’s heartbroken for her own loss. As a mother, she’s devastated for her children who now have to grow up without their father. But in true Treadway fashion, Tessa has found the strength to carry this new motherload.

Where Tessa and Dave used to split the roles and duties of being parents and partners, Tessa has had to learn how to juggle it all on her own.

 

“One thing that I've really noticed this year is when there are two parents working together, you both have that opportunity to say, ‘Okay, I'm done. I need a break, I'm going to lose it at the kids,’” says Tessa. “Parenting on your own, that luxury I guess is all of a sudden gone and so it's pretty wild to see where in yourself you just have to go when it's not really an option to tap out or to say, ‘Okay, I'm done.’ You just have to take a deep breath and dig a little deeper to somewhere you never even knew existed.”

 

While it may never be considered “easy,” Tessa continues to bring her three children to the mountains, to share the freedom and solace she and her late husband discovered for themselves so many years ago. It takes a lot longer to load up the truck and the gear bag weighs just as much as she does, but once she’s out there sliding on snow with her kids it all becomes worth it. In a way, it’s like bringing the past into the present.

 

“We love to be in the mountains and it's super special,” says Tessa. “I don't know if it's kind of like nurture versus nature. I don't know if it's because of the way that [Dave and I]  introduced skiing to them and how much fun we've had as a family doing it. The reason is if that's why they love it or if it's just because they love skiing or it is what we've created it to be, but it's super special that as a family, being up skiing at a ski hill and enjoying time in the mountains together is just a place that we all feel alive and we feel joy and that we can really all be living in the moment presently.”

The Free Range Mom also admits that it’s a bit of a selfish pursuit because the mountains are where she feels most like herself. “Being in the mountains feels like the place I want to be,” says Tessa. “Like it’s my old life and I have this opportunity to bring my kids into it and introduce them to something that I love so much.”

 

Grief, much like anything in life, has its ebbs and flows, but Tessa has found peace in the chaos and looks to her kids to keep her grounded.

 

“I think I'm getting really good at adapting and rolling with it because we don't know what the next day holds,” says Tessa. “And so all we've got is right now and that's a really good thing that kids remind us of every day.”

 

Even though the massive gear bag for this new Free Range Family isn’t getting any lighter, it’s Tessa’s strength to pick it up, day after day, despite the struggle, that is making it feel just a little less cumbersome and a little more normal.

 

Raising my kids on my own, dealing with their emotions, dealing with my emotions, dealing with our loss, all of it. It's super hard, but it definitely hasn't been bad,” Tessa laments. “There are days that have felt really bad and hard but to see the kids coming back to life to see, I don't know, to notice small things and celebrate them, to have joy again, it all feels like all the hard is worth it and it's not bad.”

 

Watch the new short film Motherload featuring Tessa Treadway.

Follow @freerange.family on Instagram to see more of Tessa and her family’s adventures.